Wei Wuxian and Orientation
Apr. 11th, 2021 12:48 amWhy does almost all fic that mentions sexuality qua orientation read Wei Wuxian as bi? Is it just a ‘get the full queer spectrum in the modern AU’ affair?* Authorial extensions of empathy? To me, ‘gay’ seems more likely as a reading for the character. I feel like if Wei Wuxian had a fully developed sense of normative attraction in a comp-het environment (which CQL and MDZS seem to be, even if queer marriages are relatively common), he wouldn’t simultaneously be in such weird denial about what he was feeling for and doing with Lan Wangji. To me, the nature and degree of his drive and confusion on the subject aren’t very compatible with an entirely discrete, psychologically reconciled heterosexual system of attraction. Wei Wuxian is never very comfortable with his own desires, or with envisioning futurity (and per MDZS, hasn’t had sexual experience pre Phoenix Mountain). I suppose he could be fairly divorced from any relationship with his sexuality outside of the realisations canon guides him through, but nonetheless have ‘bi potential’.
I think a lot of people are reading the fact that Wei Wuxian ‘flirts with women’, i.e. is conversationally charming, as a sure-fire indication of sexual attraction to the women he speaks to. This, to me, indicates those people have forgotten their last several conversations with gay men of a certain age. More generally, people flirt for a lot of reasons: validation, for fun, to disarm people, to ease tension and to build friendships. As a delivery girl, when I needed money I wore a very low-cut top because I wanted tips. This was not an act of attraction or any form of evident interest on my part. We all move through a society comprised of people by asking for their good will; we are all of us dependent on the kindness of strangers. Though their core Freudian mechanisms might be predicated on sexual logics, amae and sa jiao are not always sexual. Wei Wuxian has command of a lot of verbal and behavioural registers and moves through them with calculation, as benefits him. He plays with formality and class to similar ends.
More generally, ‘to flirt is to fuck’ is not quite how ‘charm’ as a tool plays out in the world. It’s more complicated than that. Charm is a system people without power, or who perceive themselves as being without it, can use to ask for what they need but can’t claim by entitlement or take. Charm turns begging into seduction. It is a method of winning what you want which Wei Wuxian, a former street child who then lands in a somewhat-insecure home in his new sect, would have learned to survive, and then kept up to negotiate the threat level he presents to the world. He must perform sufficient bravado macho-posturing to ensure he has a place, is not able to be walked over and represents the interests of his masters, but must cut this with strategic, constant emotional labour to support Jiang Wanyin’s power and soothe hostilities. Wei Wuxian regularly adjusts the burner knob to keep the gas level right, the flame under control and the simmer constant.
I don’t have anything against a Bi Wei Wuxian reading. I’d certainly see attraction as possible and compelling between a male Wei Wuxian and female Lan Wangji, because core elements of their personalities would still interact in compelling ways. But while CQL eases up enormously on this theme, I think, almost as much as Scum Villain, MDZS is supposed to be about sexual repression, specifically related to queerness (and it’s weird to see such full-bore ‘and Lan Wangji is absolutely gay’ from the same people bringing ‘and Wei Wuxian must of course be bi’: as far as I know, Lan Wangji is Wei Wuxian sexual). It’s particularly interesting because in the 90s, Western mlm Fandom was churning out so many stories About Gayness. Blake’s 7 and Star Trek zinefic examples come readily to mind. It sort of feels like danmei is in that work space now, while also having very familiar conversations about consent (via fictional praxis, more than as surface-level content).
* Though the same circle of fics is often, though not always, keen to read him as A Bottom rather than engaging with versatility. While you can be a Pure Bottom man in an m/f relationship, it’s not socially expected. But perhaps, actually, I’m conflating two quite big, sometimes overlapping but not connected fic trends: the No Vers Curse and Baby Bi Bi Bi.
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Date: 2021-04-11 12:34 am (UTC)I haven't read the novel yet (though I am aware, generally, of the points of difference), and I am coming at this thinking from the POV of having done a bit of research and reading on homosexuality in pre-modern east Asia (more focused on Japan, but many of the sources cover both). In a historical context (for the large period of history wuxia/xianxia draws from), yeah, it'd be comp het in the sense that while nobody really cared if you had a male lover, you would still be expected to marry and have children and continue the family, and that even in modern east Asia, a lot of the sentiments against homosexuality have elements of 'you aren't doing your filial duty'/'you are being different/standing out' as opposed to the stronger sentiment in the west of 'there is something inherently immoral about homosexuality' (not that the ideas are mutually exclusive, of course, just shifted in importance).
So less concerns about liking men, and more concerns about throwing away what's expected of him by society - and WWX definitely has a complicated relationship with societal expectations of him.
(and honestly, this is part of why I actually like a/b/o - more options for playing around with those societal expectations and fulfillment of them)
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Date: 2021-04-11 01:26 am (UTC)And whether or not gay marriages like the LWJ/WWX one are things that happen in the MDZS universe (and barring the unusual incestuous circumstances), the aspersions cast on Mo Xuanyu defining him as unreliable, not to be trusted, etc. are super based on his not being able to control himself sexually, not playing his primary role as an upright man. So clearly there's some ambient hostility in the fantasy world. And Wei Wuxian's book-canon resistance to self-defining as queer, and JWY's comments, are also like, evidence of at least some perhaps modern-retconned forms of hostility.
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Date: 2021-04-11 05:59 pm (UTC)And yeah, not surprised some modern sentiments crept in there. Interestingly TGCF doesn't really have that - while Xie Lian has some confusion about his feelings, they read way more as a combo of his absolutely garbage self-esteem and confusion around romantic/sexual attraction at all (which, 800 years of a cultivation path requiring celibacy, not surprising lol)
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Date: 2021-04-11 03:28 am (UTC)In a lot of cases I think writers are assuming a modern, Western level of available resources to figure out sexuality/gender, and if that's the case, "why doesn't he know he likes men?" is a question that needs an answer rather than just, a kind of normal position to be in, and "he likes women, as society expects of him, so he never needed to delve further into it" answers it.
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Date: 2021-04-11 05:53 pm (UTC)Yuuuuuup. And I get that simple, concrete narratives like that are great for PR purposes, but when queer people are giving other queer people flack for not having the 'right' queer experience, it is time for a new narrative.
(and don't get me started on the 'queer is a slur' BS, I will breathe actual fire)
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Date: 2021-04-11 07:02 am (UTC)I personally don't read him as very sexual at all, until he and Lan Zhan get it together. But IDEK what that read is based on, it's jsut some kind of gut feeling. Maybe his apparently inability to realize just what he might want from Lan Zhan. IDK.
The Lan Zhan is gay reading is strong with me because of how he reacts to the gay porn Wei Wuxian smuggled into his book. To me, that looks not like disgust but like terror -- terror of the 'how on earth did he know' kind.
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Date: 2021-04-11 02:30 pm (UTC)I'm not sure where the perception of LWJ as Definitely Gay comes from, except maybe people mapping his experiences with the restrictions of Cloud Recesses to "repressed gay from a homophobic religious upbringing" tropes? That parallel does seem to show up a lot in Modern AUs, e.g. Lan Qiren trying to get LWJ to date/marry women and objecting to WWX on gender grounds, as opposed to WWX-specific grounds.
I do think of WWX as bi/queer, and never really questioned that fanon, even though I don't think he's actually sexually attracted to almost anyone he flirts with (I agree that that's a performative social game). I think the reason I instinctively resist gay WWX (and would also resist straight WWX, even if paired with f!LWJ) is that WWX is All About Complicating Binaries, thematically, and it feels wrong for him to be firmly on one side of one. He is and isn't gentry, he is and isn't respectable, he's both a child of economic privilege and a starving street kid, he's both a hero and a villain and the public keeps changing their minds on the matter, he blurs and complicates the line between life and death... it goes on and on. Wei Wuxian Rejects Your Binary Categories.
I also kind of automatically think of him as some variety of genderqueer, probably for similar reasons? Like, he's wearing a male role and doesn't seem to have a problem with that, but I don't think he identifies with it particularly. Possibly this is projection on my part, as a queer and genderqueer person who also does not do well with binary identity categories!
I completely agree with your paragraph about WWX's charm being social engineering based on a deep awareness of his security and safety depending on how people see him and whether or not they like him. I think WWX has been pretty dissociated from his own desires for most of his life, and only allows himself to actively feel things he subconsciously thinks are "acceptable" - so I see his inability to recognize his desire for LWJ in the novel (in CQL I think he's more aware, just thinks it's impossible) as trauma-based repression. It's not just that it's queer desire, it's that it's desire for something for himself, something selfish and not focused on his service to the Jiangs and his debt to them. I don't think WWX (in either show or novel) is willing to allow himself to think about a future for *himself*.
One of the things that indicates security and trust and allows for possible attraction, to me, is when WWX stops carefully managing someone's response to him - which is why, though I ship him ardently with LWJ as an OTP, I can imagine Wen Qing/Wei Wuxian and find it plausible. (It's D/s and she tops the hell out of him, regardless of who penetrates what. I think they both get a kick out of her threatening him with the needles, okay.)
(Also this is why I am not a big believer in WWX and JC reconciliation, or a supporter of their earlier relationship. BOTH OF THEM think it is WWX's job to manage, soothe, and absorb JC's negative emotions, and that holds true right to the end of the story. There is never a single moment when WWX is safe enough with JC to be emotionally honest or put his own feelings first, and never a moment when JC says "my feelings are not your job and you should not be punished for the fact that I feel bad" - in fact he says the opposite, over and over again.)
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Date: 2021-04-11 05:21 pm (UTC)Yeah I strongly agree that the Problem of LWJ for WWX isn't purely gender, it's that it's a want that as you say doesn't SEAMLESSLY integrate with Jiang's Interests. And I do think he and Wen Qing are close in a way he can be with few other people, in part because they're Difficult people rendered malleable by circumstances, and part of their very difficulty is itself a product of their resistance to outright self-annihilating protective compliance, their urges to kick against it.
I also would like to read some good meta I trust on like, WWX and JWY's shared idea of the responsibilities owed siblings? Because I do feel like WWX being 'the older brother' is tapping into a whole suite of fully Naturalised expectations I just don't have complete access to.
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Date: 2021-04-11 03:15 pm (UTC)When he tells Jiang Yanli he doesn't intend to marry, I don't hear, "I couldn't do well by a woman," though there's absolutely nothing contraindicating that reading and YMMV. But what I hear is, "I don't want to divide my attention or loyalty between my family and my sect duties," (yup! ironic how that one works out!). More subconsciously but also more crucially, I think part of him knows he would do very badly with a partner who wasn't his equal if not his superior, and so far, he's met exactly one of those, and he is not for Wei Wuxian (ironic how that works out also!).
He's a humongous, yearning romantic, but he yearns for a zhiji, not a spouse. When he meets LWJ, he's so darned excited, he calls him zhiji within, like, ten minutes, even though he is babie who has no clue what having a true zhiji really means. And if you gave him a choice between a lovely spouse who could give him a fantastic sex life, and a celibate life with someone who understood and matched him intellectually, he'd pick the second without blinking.
I also think he spends his youth running around discipling and playing games and inventing things and not thinking about it very hard, certainly not the way modern people navel-gaze about labels, and then the war happens and his sex drive gets wholly obliterated, and then when he wakes up the only person he'll ever need is LOOMING RIGHT THERE.
So yeah, I think bi, in theory. I think he appeals to fandom in general as a bi character because of the way he both sparks with and has intimate friendships with men and women on screen, but I also wonder if others besides me label him that way because they see someone for whom gender is a distant second to connection and belonging.
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Date: 2021-04-11 05:28 pm (UTC)Yeah I think what he's saying in re marriage is absolutely 'especially right now, my focus and loyalty must be entirely with Jiang'. Like it could have been different if he'd grown up in a very different political climate, and come to maturity with his parental-figures still alive and in charge, easing the burden on JWY.
As much as I'd agree re his zhiji obsession, I've wondered, actually:
"Me: A lot of local kids must be just NUTS about wwx, Maybe a good move from JC would have been to clinch a betrothal with some small sect leader’s daughter who really crushed on him, bc he would have responded to that with some flattery and been kind about it, and then that would have hooked wwx more effectively into the structure of the place
Phnelt: yep i have to think the original plan was basically what jgy did, marry someone already beholden to the sect to tie them closer and keep wwx enmeshed
Me: and he might not even have noticed it wasn't what he wanted, just 'well she's not attractive like lwj, but what an unreasonable standard to hold anyone to!' 'there will be a lot of angry maidens and disappointed young gentlemen, if that's the bar a wife must reach!'
Phnelt: and he'd never leave lotus pier so it's nice, also, that the person is marrying doesn't have to leave their home. i mean imagining asking someone else to do that
Me: lwj pressing him like '...do you love her?' and wwx like well I've not known her long at all! she seems very nice! I'll try to be a good husband to her, of course-- and taking it wrong when lwj is increasingly angry about it"
(I will say I'm not necessarily like, COMMITTED! to gender-first models of attraction for the character or personally, any more than the meta on sect power structures indicates a deep interest in how the Nie manage direct reports. I don't have a firm agenda or preference here, per se.)
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Date: 2021-04-12 02:29 pm (UTC)But also if we're reading them as PURELY sect siblings, I bet Madam Yu nixed the fuck out of it (even if permitting that would really douse any 'actually Fengmian's kid' rumours).
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Date: 2021-04-12 03:08 pm (UTC)Like SVSSS isn't an incest ship and is VERY careful to circumnavigate it while maintaining that tension--but it is for sure invested in that tension, that's not *just* a Master/Disciple thing, like, a lot of the frisson is absolutely the age gap, the hard parallels between the love interest and the protagonist's mother, and at some point he says 'I don't need a father, I have you!' And there's a lot of--'I raised you'. Like the tension is always narratively held in check, but that is REALLY Freudtacular, &I don't think we could reasonably deny that's a deliberately-negotiated site of eroticism. If Mianmian were to make a terrible decision and sleep with Jin Guangshan, or if Su She were to sleep with LWJ or Lan Qiren (I'm really sorry to raise such prospects), that wouldn't feel weird on these grounds, because it's the term and relationship but not Luo 'Mommy Issues' Binghe living in your house, Making It Weird.
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Date: 2021-04-12 03:52 pm (UTC)Biao ge, a formerly perfectly normal term of address for one's older male cousin on the maternal side, has now been corrupted so much by literary and screen romance heroines falling in love with their cousins that the thought of actually calling someone it is just very Do Not Want. Plain 'gege' is rapidly going the same way, for the same reasons. The post-plague family gathering is going to involve me constructing sentences so as to avoid addressing any older same-generation male relative directly.
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Date: 2021-04-12 07:04 am (UTC)For Lan Wangji, I think his narrative hinges really heavily on the idea that he is a closeted gay man who is struggling with his sexuality and what it means about and for him as a person, and I think any sexual interest in women breaks his narrative fairly solidly. So, gay.
As for Wei Wuxian, I tend to read a lot of Wei Wuxian's flirtations with women in canon as indications of potential romantic or sexual interest, specifically because he mentions beautiful women, wives, and women being beautiful in conversations with friends / other men. That's not to say that I'm married to this reading religiously or insulted by anything else—you could easily make the argument for that being comphet, and in fact, in CQL, you could very easily make a case for Wei Wuxian being gay out of that scene where he tells Jiang Yanli that he doesn't want a wife.
And, to be fair, I also read Wei Wuxian's initial interactions with Wen Ning as flirtatious: I tend to read Wei Wuxian as the kind of person who'd be very flirtatious and potentially even somewhat hypersexual, which I recognize could be taken as a paracanonical reading, since in canon Wei Wuxian doesn't even kiss anyone until he's like, twenty. I tend to find the "you are the only person I have ever kissed or fucked or loved" thing in the story sort of weird for Wei Wuxian's character, in a way that specifically smacks to me of like, virgin purity discourse and part of the common BL trope of sex-shaming, so I tend to handwave it out of preference. Again, other people's mileage can vary.
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Date: 2021-04-12 12:24 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2021-04-12 12:44 pm (UTC)In regards to real life, this is anecdotal and obviously colored by one person's experiences / opinions, but I've had some conversations around bisexuality with a Mainland Chinese friend of mine who's bisexual, and she's talked a lot about how bisexuality is stigmatized specifically in Chinese gay culture.
In her view, it's seen as particularly selfish to "disappoint" your family in that way when you have the option to be fulfilled by a heterosexual relationship, so it's seen as either 1) a stepping stone or cover for people who don't want to admit they're gay, and thus cowardly or less than, or 2) greedy and selfish (because you have the opportunity to do right by your family and be happy, but you're choosing queerness selfishly), and also somewhat hypersexed.
But she's also pointed out that, because of the culture around closeting in the Chinese gay community, a lot of people maintained front-facing heterosexual relationships alongside their gay ones. So in the end, it winds up being something fairly weird and complex. The aspect of queer culture that transcends all boundaries is that it's messy as hell 😂
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