Yeah exactly, it's a question of memory/lessons learned/whether we're building at all on stuff that's already been said.
This point about complex triggers and responses reminds me of the anonymous person who responded to Started from the Bottom with a series of increasingly annoyed requests to tag it for feminisation or trans issues because the person marrying into a clan was sometimes called a wife and there was some like--femme medieval wedding robe action? But not much that signified any modern cross-dressing (everyone is in robes, everyone has long hair, everyone is wearing luxurious materials, it's xianxia). So the contention was sort of--if a guy ever wears a Fancy Robe, that is OUTSIDE gender appropriate behaviour for a guy and has to be distinctly recognised and labeled, right now! And it's just so against like, anything I think about queerness or gender, it made me think of a friend's asking 'do people dislike Gay Male Stereotypes, or do they hate gay men?' I just don't think the end-point of liberation is INTENSIFICATION of medicalised Victorian taxonomical discourses and policing gender expression. It was so counter to my experience growing up in the gay community (with a gay dad), I was kind of thinking--do you know any adult gay men? Nothing here is even like, Birdcage levels of femme.
Like, I'm willing to bet this commenter had some stuff they need to work through, but it's not really my fault for making you have a gender feeling in a fic which says every gendered thing that's happening right in the summary? That is your own Deal to work through? And if gendered sa jiao/any tension in that regard is *fraught* for you, idk what you're doing with WWX in the first place.
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This point about complex triggers and responses reminds me of the anonymous person who responded to Started from the Bottom with a series of increasingly annoyed requests to tag it for feminisation or trans issues because the person marrying into a clan was sometimes called a wife and there was some like--femme medieval wedding robe action? But not much that signified any modern cross-dressing (everyone is in robes, everyone has long hair, everyone is wearing luxurious materials, it's xianxia). So the contention was sort of--if a guy ever wears a Fancy Robe, that is OUTSIDE gender appropriate behaviour for a guy and has to be distinctly recognised and labeled, right now! And it's just so against like, anything I think about queerness or gender, it made me think of a friend's asking 'do people dislike Gay Male Stereotypes, or do they hate gay men?' I just don't think the end-point of liberation is INTENSIFICATION of medicalised Victorian taxonomical discourses and policing gender expression. It was so counter to my experience growing up in the gay community (with a gay dad), I was kind of thinking--do you know any adult gay men? Nothing here is even like, Birdcage levels of femme.
Like, I'm willing to bet this commenter had some stuff they need to work through, but it's not really my fault for making you have a gender feeling in a fic which says every gendered thing that's happening right in the summary? That is your own Deal to work through? And if gendered sa jiao/any tension in that regard is *fraught* for you, idk what you're doing with WWX in the first place.